Breaking the Burnout Cycle

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As women, overwhelm and stress can seem inevitable. It’s easy for us to take on more than we can handle, or to feel like we haven’t done enough. Eventually, this can leave us depleted and exhausted, leading to hormone imbalance, a compromised immune system, and poorer quality of life. In this video, Robin talks with transformation and leadership coach Rachael O'Meara about recognizing the signs of burnout and how “pausing” can help us reconnect with what truly nourishes us. By learning how to put on your own oxygen mask first, you can escape the cycle of burnout, live with intention, and achieve hormone balance.

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  • How do I recognize the signs of burnout?
  • What is the difference between pleasure and nourishment?
  • How can I break the cycle of burnout?


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to survive I'm ready to be here with you today

I am ready to receive all the love that's given me. Because I know that I am worthy. Yes and more please. I am ready to release all the fears anxiety. And I trust that I am held in the light by divinity. So with playing small knowing I am made Star Wars, and that I am the love that I'm looking for. Knowing that my heart is my

drive here for a minute. That's so beautiful. Oh my gosh, we're so tired of playing small. We're made of stars. Isn't that so pretty? Oh my gosh. So gorgeous. Well, welcome to urban breakthrough Wednesday, I am so so glad you're here and just say hello. If you're joining in live and please say hello. If you're listening to the replay. I read every single comment here. So I want to make sure that I get to see you that just seen. Yes. And any questions that come up? We're here to answer them for you and my very special guest who's coming on in just a minute. We'll also answer questions for you. She's also in this group and can really support you in a powerful way. So I want to say hello to beautiful Rachel Amira. Hi, Rachel.

Hello, Robin. Hello. Hello, all sisters near and far. It's so great to be here today.

Yes. So, so great to have you on. And I want to tell you a little bit about Rachel. So today is very special. Because we're coming into the holiday season. This is when we can easily go to burnout overwhelmed stress, right, all of that. And so we naturally do that anyway. But the holidays Bring, bring more, and especially now with sort of the way things are the way things are shaping up, it's, it's putting more stress on many of us, it's creating a much more uncertainty. And so now more than ever, we need to take charge of our health we need to become the CEO. So I bring you guests who can help us to do that. Because we know with burnout, stress overwhelm it wreaks havoc on our hormones just wreaks havoc, and we can't feel well we can't show up for ourselves, we can't serve at the highest level possible. We just can't, we just can't because we so I'm just gonna make sure it's giving me a notice that my sound has changed. But it looks like it's all changed back. So let me tell you this a little bit about Rachel. So today's topic is really, you know, reclaiming, reclaiming your life. Before the holidays. I love that. You know, most women experience burnout, overwhelm and stress that leads to hormone imbalance, a compromised immune system, and it really poor quality of life. And I know because that was me. So it's time to change the paradigm so you can heal and feel so much better. So we're going to learn the three steps that you can use right now to shift out of burnout. You can learn what real nourishment is, and what it isn't. And you're going to be able to create your active pause, plan immediately so you can start to intentionally shift your behavior. So let me tell you a little bit about Rachel. She is a transformation and leadership coach who empowers women to learn the emotional intelligence skills to thrive at work and beyond. She's had a decade in sales and client services at Google that has helped her have a pulse on what it takes to be a success while maintaining your sanity and well being. Her book pause was named one or 2007 teens top business books for your career. She has been featured in The New York Times Wall Street and the TEDx stage. She received her master's degree in transformational leadership and coaching from the Wright graduate university in 20. Eat 20 and has an MBA from Fordham University. She lives in San Francisco where my son is with her husband and aims to pause in service for her doing as much as possible. Yeah, it's a lifelong challenge right? Are our message so welcome, Rachel, it's so great to have you here.

Oh, thank you, Robin. And thank you so much for, for the intro, and all of you for being here today. Like Robin always says, you know, this is this is a congratulatory time you made it like, good job, you pause with us for this time. So give yourself a pat on the back or a little mini hug, this is actually a great self care move. By the way, just even allowing yourself you can notice I'm wearing a shawl, every time we're wearing like a if you wear a wrap or a shawl, it's actually like imitating the swaddle even and you can feel more comfort, believe it or not. And that's all kind of based on my training of how we can bring ourselves to bear in this world that's 24/7 and always on. And I'll share a little bit about my story and how I ended up in this work similar to Robin, you know, a lot of this happened to me where I burned out. And I just want to say, I know, in this community, there's so many of you who are, you know, challenged and like, and like working for the better of your life and creating what you need for it. And so that's like, so incredible from the embracing the physical and like all of the things that you're aligning with your system, to, to prosper, and to reach your potential for that and your hormone balance. And I think of it like pausing is the same for your mental and emotional health. So it kind of aligns just like that, where it's like, you've got then the physical, the emotional, the mental, and then the spiritual, which is this overall guidance for just like where you want to go in life and nature and the universe that's really pulling you forward, no matter what your beliefs are. So just want to preface that. And I call a pause, by the way, any intentional shift in behavior. So you being here, you creating the space for yourself to improve in the ways that you want to for your health and your life. That's a pause. It doesn't have to be meditation or mindfulness. I mean, it can be but I think of it like this umbrella term for everything to kind of fall under. So to give you some context, a little bit, I mentioned, you know how I ended up in this in this world, I, I heard Robin mentioned, Google, I still work full time in that world. And I was just in the office today actually cleaning up my desk. So it was very, very barren. No one's there. It's like dead. So I've been there for 13 years. And it wasn't always a rosy picture. For me. I've worked in sales. I have clients, I manage accounts, in the Google sphere in the world of advertising. But a couple of years ago, I actually hit a wall and burned out. And what was going on was, when I look back, I really wasn't present in meaning I was always either thinking about my future, like, Oh, what do I have to do next? Or like, I gotta run on the go and, and finish this report? Or like, how am I going to prepare for this Monday morning email, so I better sit down Friday, or sorry, Sunday night and finish something up. So I see the future tripping, or it was in the past, I was thinking about, I wish I could have done this better, I should have could have what, uh, if I only said this in the meeting, if I'd only like gone out for that example, run the day before. And so I just wasn't present, meaning I wasn't aware of what was going on in the moment. I wasn't aware of how I felt. I wasn't aware of burning out like feeling depleted, feeling exhausted, feeling overwhelmed, because I just kept spinning my wheels. And I don't know who here can relate to that. Like who here spins your wheels, just thinking, you know, if I just if I just maybe this thing or if I try this different thing, and then just you just continue to get in that cycle. And it's like a vicious cycle. Because, for me, it was a mental tailspin. It felt like I was just like on this path, no matter what I did, no matter how I was going about things. And it wasn't for lack of trying. I'm sure many of us here are incredible achievers, right. We're all we're all like the like the superstars of our life in many ways. But there's these aspects that keep us stuck. And so for me, that was the case, I was getting feedback. I wasn't doing well in my job and I wasn't a good communicator. I didn't have executive presence, like all these things. So what ended up happening was instead of quitting, I took a short leave of absence to really reassess where I was, because it wasn't for like a time but I didn't know what to do. I felt really lost. So I went home in San Francis Go here and actually chose not to fill up my schedule. For three months, I thought about what I really wanted to do, because I didn't really know what my plan was wasn't working. And so I ask all of you, you know, think back to a time where maybe you were in a situation, or maybe it's even happening now, or you know, a friend that you support who feels a little overwhelmed or even with the, you know, the holidays coming up, it feels like there's a lot going on. And with COVID, and Pandemic times and social revolution, we all know, there's a little more on our plates these days. Right. So the idea is that I did go back to Google where I'm at now, but things were really different. And it's because I ended up being in that more present state, in that more aware state. And I think for all of us, like that's a big message for today is that when we're either in our heads, you know, we forget we have the neck down, sometimes, even when we're focused on healing our bodies and ourselves, we forget, we are just like so wrapped up as cerebral thinkers sometimes. And so my invitation to all of you is to know that if you are feeling that overwhelm, or that stress, or as Robin, you'd like to say, pleasure, stress management is pleasure. Like, those are things that can be improved, we can all learn these skills. If I can do it, I am positive, like anyone else can do it. Because for for, for all I know, I didn't have an inkling of what to do. But I ended up going back to Google and started studying emotional and social learning through a through a company called the right foundation in Chicago. So here I am, eight years later, I'm a coach, and I help people on the side with this information. Because I, I know we're all living sometimes through the motions or kind of like getting from the next thing to the next. And it doesn't need to be that way. And so that's what my big mission is, is to help women who feel overwhelmed or stuck, reclaim their lives. And that can be on the physical plane, but it can also be in that emotional plane, which is so important to feel fulfilled. And not just, like be feeling good, but like really emoting that and living that through through the joy and the sadness, and the fear and the anger, like everything integrating so that you can live your best life and flourish. And that's really what I, I wanted to share a lot about for today.

Awesome. So you've mentioned some really powerful things. And I know that I one of the things that you said was you know that there are a lot of rock stars in this group. And There absolutely are like, if you're in this group, I think that you are an incredible Rockstar, because you already like taking that step, to start to figure things out for yourself, right? This is the natural solutions for hormone balance group and you are looking for ways to support yourself naturally in a really powerful way. So you're a rock star, and I just like you to like put a heart, put a heart for yourself. If you're one of the ladies, you know, if you're someone who feels any stress right now, or any overwhelm, or any burnout, like are you one of those ladies, just give a heart or a thumbs up? Right? We want to acknowledge you we want to send you so much love. There are definitely times when I feel that and have to check myself. So Rachel talked about how, you know, a lot of times we forget that there's anything from here down. How many of us have done that disappear? We're just here, we're just like a, we're just like a head spinning all the time, right? We're just in our heads and we can't get out. It's really hard to get out of our heads and into our bodies. And and so Rachel mentioned pleasure, that's one of the ways we can do it. Rachel, how how does a woman know? Because oftentimes, we are so wrapped up in our own stuff and our own lives that we don't know if we're in trouble. So how do we know if we need to really pay attention today?
Yeah, I think that's so important. And I think especially as women we like there's research and statistics on this, that we tend to take on more, and we feel guilty about it as a result compared to most of our male counterparts. So it's really important. I think the first step is to be aware, and to notice what, what what you're feeling, I think is one of the biggest things. And there's a lot of feelings going on right now. And there's people behind screens and maybe you're living by yourself or feeling a little isolated. And when that happens, and we don't express it's actually not necessarily serving us because we are bottling things up. And when we don't, when we're not able to express, either we avoid things and we just keep going, or we are, we want it, we bottle it up, and we just aren't being in our truth, almost like we're not being authentic to what we would want to express and I call authenticity being true to who you could become. So I have five signs that I think about, if I know I need a pause, and again, a pause is an intentional shift in behavior. And so you know, being here, I think, is a pause in itself. And that would align with one of my signs, which is there's a challenge in your life. So something's not working right, or something's out of whack. And it's not for lack of trying or effort. It's simply something that needs to be realigned, just like I birthed out of Google, I needed to realign with my strengths and what I wanted to do. And so that's one another. Another sign is that you used to love what you do. And now it feels more like a pain in the butt, or a drag, meaning your motivation is down or you just not, you know, stop feeling it. You could also have a technology intervention. So if you maybe give yourself an intervention, thinking like, hmm, yeah, I'm on the screen, I'm on my phone, eight hours a day, the average American checks their phone at least 250 times a day, which is probably even more now in the pandemic. So it could be like that. Or if there's someone that cares about you, and just says, you know, hey, I noticed you're on your laptop all the time, what gives? Right and that loving kind way, but maybe it's a wake up call to be like, yeah, maybe I am a little tethered to my devices. And that actually, is a challenge in itself for many reasons. And then the last sign for women is if there's an opportunity, so if you actually have an opportunity, like a passion project, I think in this point of time with the Coronavirus, there's, there's a lot of opportunity for creativity and maybe tapping into things that you'd put off or, or even if you're doing too much, it's about redirecting that energy into what can serve you. And so I think all of those things can be signs to say, Hey, maybe I need a pause. It's just for me in terms of realignment. And again, it's not tied to time, or money or what you do. But it's about how you are and the quality of what you can do to have intention around what you can also shift for you.

Yeah, that's great. So you said, so, so how, you know, if you need a pause, if you have a challenge in your life or some sort, you use someone with you, but you don't anymore, or you don't feel as motivated. Right? Technology, you're on technology too much? Or you're I really think it's an it's an obsession. So if you're obsessed with anything that isn't really nourishing you. That's a wake up call. Yes. And then the fourth was, if an opportunity passion project comes up, I wasn't really sure how that was a way you would know. Yeah, so

So I think of it like that, like it Do you want to scratch like there's just something that you've been thinking about for a while. Maybe it's like, let's just take the example of gardening. Like, you know, maybe you've always wanted to grow your own herb garden, and you just haven't, it's been a busy time. And now you've got kids at home to feed and things like that. So what if you created the space to allow yourself to start planning for an herb garden? The idea is that we can be satisfied so much more when we meet these deeper hungers, and there's probably a deeper desire there to create and to matter in ways that you don't right now, things like that, and also have fun and feel alive, which are the ways that we get fueled out of an infield more replenish when we are experiencing that overwhelm or feeling a little bit stressed.

Oh, gosh, I absolutely love that. Like nourishing your deeper hunger doing things that really matter. I mean, I can't think of anything better for balancing your hormones.

That's exactly you talk about this all the time Robin. And and a lot of times like how often do we hear that? That critic voice in our mind that just says Then today? Are you so busy? Why Why bother now we'll do it later. Oh, like maybe 2021 Right? We just kind of kick the can down the road. And so one of the things I want to share today is what nourishment is and what it isn't because this is really key and and I think a lot of us I would love to hear maybe in the comments you know what do you think nourishment is what what is your what comes to mind for you? And that not necessarily food this is just nourishing your your mind your body, your soul, like the whole the whole picture, right? I know. I used to think it was and Robin I'd be curious to hear what you said that like I used to think it was getting my nails done. going for a run, getting a massage, getting a massage, yeah, dancing, sometimes, things like that. And some of those are nourishing, but the actual definition of nourishment. And this is from my training in emotional intelligence is anything that helps you learn and grow. That happens in the here and now. So you need so the first so there's a couple of things there. So one is learning and growing. If you're not growing, is it nourishing is the question. And really, it's not. So go back to that. That question like what's nourishing, getting my nails done getting a massage am I am I learning, they're not so much. So you're getting like a surface topical level pleasure. And it's great. And there's nothing wrong with that, however, like that deeper, deeper desire satisfaction, which can actually activate oxytocin and bring down those cortisol cortisol levels and get you into that parasympathetic nervous system. That is all something where you are learning and growing. And this is the kicker, you have to be present for it. So you can't be thinking about something and saying, I'd love to take a trip to France, when this opens up, that's going to be great. And yeah, that'll be some positive experiences in your mind. But if you actually aren't, like present to it, where you're actually doing something or feeling something, then chances are, it's not nourishing. And then what ends up happening is we kind of get it, we kind of think we're doing things that are really positive for us. But they're really kind of surface level. They're not touching those deeper desires, those hungers that we have called yearnings that we can have get met when we're nourished. So I say that because we wonder why we're depleted, we wonder why we're running around like chickens with our heads cut off. It's because we're doing all these things, and they're not nourishing, in a way that really feels satisfying. And that's huge. Like, that is so huge. It changed my whole outlook when I learned that. And, you know, I don't I don't think about getting my nails done to be nourishing anymore, I think about how I could have a conversation that feels fulfilling, or take a risk that feels a little scary. But I know will will like end up with me saying the truth that might feel vulnerable or learning about someone. That's what a pause is, to me. It's an intentional shift in behavior. But it also you know, can have a real strong outcome for nourishment. And tie that to the holidays. Right. So now we've got Thanksgiving coming up. And there's holidays right around the corner in December. And so when we think about getting nourished, what would really serve you like what could be nourishment for you? And a lot of times it's not what we think it is, and there might be a little bit of satisfaction there. But if you really want to feel like the oxytocin going off in your system and feeling that that glow that can last for hours or days, then we really need to reassess what is that nourishment for you? And that can be so much more than what we usually think it is.

I would love for, for you listening to post in the comments like what is something? Rachel use the term, you know, kicking the can down the road? What is something that you've been kicking down the road, right for putting it off for some other time? Like, what's something that, you know, would really nourish you like she said, you know, flying to France or taking a trip to France? That's not really an option right now. So what could you replace it with? Like, what is something that's kind of annoying that you that you really, really, really want to do or embark on but you haven't? Like, what is it? I just post it right here. We'd love to would love to see what that is. And you know, when you post here, you're kind of putting it out there, right that it's something that you want to do. I'll tell you what I did recently I've been thinking about one of my clients is a flute player, a flutist and I used to play the flute years and years and years ago. And I thought how wonderful would it be good to get back into that because music for me is so nourishing. And so I finally did okay, it took me a long time. But I bought a flute and I am now I bought a flute and a beginner flute book. I didn't know if I could even remember how to play the notes or anything but it's really amazing how it comes back. And I feel so like happy when I'm playing and learning and now I'm thinking about okay, what's my next book going to be and what am I going to start taking lessons and so it's just what like Rachel is talking about those things that are above and beyond you know, Rachel you mentioned you know getting getting your nails done or you know getting a massage or you know, and I would tell my clients when they first started working with them you know you need more time for yourself up, like, that's one of my things, you've got to have more time for yourself and what that got interpreted as was getting your nails done and getting a massage and, you know, doing all this self care sort of external self care things. So then I would get back together with my clients. And I would say, how was your weekend? Oh, well, it was good. You know, I got my nails done, I got a massage, like the whole weekend was scheduled out with these things. And it's like, wait a minute, like, we need to pause. We need some downtime, we don't need to schedule ourselves out more. So what is pause? And why is it so important?

Yeah, oh, my gosh, yours, you're just speaking my language. There's so much Robin. And I so relate to like, blocking out my calendar getting awful for something else. So here's the thing with pausing. And you know, we can all think of it in our own way. Again, it's an intentional shift in behavior. And so it's about what works for you, it's actually an individual response that can be very different across the board. So it can be sipping your favorite detox tea, every night at eight o'clock before you go to bed and wind down like that is a ritual that can be so nourishing. And in like, what you could be learning is just reflecting maybe you're journaling, maybe you're just taking in those senses. So you're you're smelling the tea, you're tasting it on your lips, and the the warm liquid. And you're you're like reflecting on your day. And that's growth like you're bringing that into how can this? How can this be in my benefit. So there's those kinds of things there might be like, a lot of us might be on a forced pause right now. And I talk about all these different types of pauses in pause the book, forest pauses are when we literally maybe get laid off, or we don't have a choice. And so the idea is, it's not about a passive play. It's not like kicking up your heels and binging on Netflix, which it can be, but again, it's intentional. So if you were to do that, the idea is how can you make it nourishing for yourself. So now you all know the definition of nourishment. So maybe that means you're going to do it for two hours. And like create a rule around, I'm going to do it for two hours. And then I'm going to put myself gently to bed. And like that serves you to refuel. So it's so that could be something you do, it could be essentially something that is active, like the word pause is in many ways, we think of it as a passive passive word. It's like not doing anything, but I'm working in the world to change that. So that it's active. It's like an active, intentional shift in behavior. And again, it can be something that takes courage for you to do like having that conversation that you've been putting off. Because you don't want to feel you don't want to make someone feel unpleasant. And that feels hard for a lot of us. So it can be it can be very different things to different people, but it's about what works for you. It could be something like meditation, it could be a walk in the evening, it could be looking out your window for 20 seconds in between meetings. It doesn't have any specificity other than it's what works for you. And every time you do that, you're like going to the blood bank, if you're like the blood donor, giving the blood out meaning, you know, like we're always feeling the pleated as women I think, and not always, but we tend to because we're giving an over giving. And the idea is that what if we actually gave to ourselves first, and we allowed ourselves to feel fulfilled, so that everyone around us can benefit from that. And I know, Robin, that's one of your mantras as well. Yeah,

yeah, absolutely. When we think about pause, and from a hormonal standpoint, you're really lowering those chronically elevated cortisol levels, right. So, you know, Rachel mentioned a lot of ways that we can pause, I mean, just, you know, having that lovely cup of tea and reflecting or journaling or looking out the window, and daydreaming could be a really nice pause. When we do that we now lower our cortisol levels. And cortisol is it's our fight or flight hormone, but it's also our daytime hormone. It's our doing hormone. It's our hormone that sets our circadian rhythm. So it's it's really the overseer of our of our light and dark cycles of the day. And so if we were just talking to a client about this, so we have a busy day, meaning our cortisol is elevated oral all day long, because we're stressed out for one reason or another. Maybe it's just that we're too busy. Or maybe we have some big things going on in our lives, then you're going to have a busy night. Right so that pause can really help to lower cortisol and then a 15 day hormone reset that's coming out pretty soon. You know, we're really working on balancing cortisol and insulin, those two big hormones and and so if you can pause to help to margin like cortisol during your day, like that's huge. So Rachel chime in here.

Yeah, I totally agree. And I And as you say, it's this alignment. So every time you have a moment to pause, when like it could be to sit down for your meal, it could be to take the breath, the daily pause of just a belly breath, you could practice gratitude, all of these things are activating the rest and refresh mode, the parasympathetic nervous system that we've all probably learned about a little bit. So to me, it's the gateway like, if you actually just pause for that moment is a gateway to so much that could be then opened up as a result of having that space, as I like to quote Viktor Frankl here, the Holocaust survivor who wrote Man's Search for Meaning. And he says, between stimulus and response, there is a space in that space is our choice to create the freedom or to create to create the space in that lies our freedom. And I think it comes back to choice. So we have a choice to pause, you all have a choice to change your life and, and be on the road to the best body and physical presence and emotional being you could possibly be. And that's a conscious choice, right? Like you didn't end up here on autopilot. So when we pause, we're actually bringing our thinking brain online, in a way that serves us in a way that gets off autopilot. But it's, it's it's a it's, it's hard, right? Like it takes courage to be here, it takes some some accolades to also know, like, hey, I want to shift things, things aren't going great. And that's, that's sometimes hard to admit, and it's hard to follow through. And that's why it's important that I think the pause is just like that little sliver of something that you'd start and then you would be able to be curious about it. And then we're getting into these three tips here. But like being courageously curious about what could be different for you is, I think, a huge asset. And that in itself is a way to pause as well.

And many of us, you know, I know, it's so easy to say, I mean, I hear this all the time, I don't have time to eat, right, I don't have time to get enough sleep, I don't have time to take care of myself or do any self care. And, and I certainly don't have time to pause. So what would you say to someone who says that?

Right? So that's a very frequent thing. Even I say that sometimes when I'm busy, we're all, you know, intensely doing things these days. So the quote that I like to use is, do you have time to feel like crap? If you don't have time to pause? Do you have time to feel like crap? And to me, that kind of reframes it like, oh, like, yeah, I guess I don't really want to feel like crap. But that's what happens, right? We all kind of experience have experienced this in some ways. And so my, my philosophy is pausing isn't an act by itself, it can actually be integrated as a mindset as a way of being so that you can go out throughout your day, day by day, where you take even little micro pauses, or mini mini breaks, mini pauses that can help to Refresh and Reset that parasympathetic nervous system to lower those cortisol levels. So that you can go throughout your day and just feel energized and feel connected to yourself to know how you feel and know what's happening. And I think that's a really powerful way. If you're up for one, Robin, we can try a daily pause. It's super simple. It's the it's do it. Yeah. Okay, great. Well, let's try the belly breath. One here first. So this one's hopefully all of us can can do this one, where you're either sitting or standing, uncross your legs on cross your arms and go ahead and put one hand, on your diaphragm, on your on your abdomen, you could put one on your chest as well, whatever it feels comfortable for you. You can close your eyes. And just take one deep breath through your nose. Feeling your chest, expand your belly, go out, and holding out if you can take a little more in and slowly exhale through your mouth. going to exhale, open your eyes if they were closed, and move your hand. So I'm curious, are you how do you feel Robin just after that one breath.

Oh my gosh, it feels so good. Feels so good.

Yeah, it was one breath and, and to me that's mind blowing. Because again, like that's us going online from autopilot. And we're here talking about it. But yet we still feel that difference. Because we're intentional about it. I have another really good one that I think is great for anyone who sits in front of a computer like me all day most of the time. It's called a micro pause. So if you want to hold up one hand, if you can hold up your hand about six inches from your face, and I'll do it turning sideways here as you see me. Go ahead and just notice your hand and use your you know, what do you what noticing about your hand maybe the texture, the color, you can kind of move it around. Maybe there's fleshy parts or bony parts. Maybe there's jewelry. And then, yeah, just notice your hand, simple sensations, hot or cold. Go ahead and take a breath and blow into the center of your palm of your hand like this. You feel the breeze of your breath on your right, and then lower your hand. Turn around. So that took about 30 seconds. That's that's a micro pause. And what we're doing with that, now, did you feel different than that? Robin?

Yeah, well, I was pausing. I was looking at my hand, and I wasn't focused up here. I was just noticing. You know, I think that when we notice, I think that really takes us out of our head and into our bodies. Yeah,

well, exactly. I'm a big fan of experiential learning. And so what we're actually doing there is you'll love this. When you feel the breath, you're actually moving your focus in your brain to the sensory experience. And you're getting out of the limbic system, you're getting into, like the thinking brain of like, Hmm, that feels cool. I wonder what that is. Because it doesn't necessarily you don't normally feel breath on your hand like that. Usually, I don't anyway. So you're you're using your sensory your your five senses, you know what you see what you feel, touch, taste and smell. And you're also activating your parasympathetic nervous system. Again, that feels good. It's like a relaxing, little breath. And that's one that I think is really, it's almost fun to do. And takes 30 seconds, there's no time. But if he even did that once a day, it just resets a little bit. And it's another opportunity to have a pause, where if you don't have time, like if you don't have 30 seconds, then I think that's a sign that you definitely need a pause. And maybe there's time to create more for that in your in your world, because we all need that self love a little bit, even if, you know, minute or 30 seconds, you know, that's so important.

Yeah. Yeah. So is, Rachel, before we get to your beautiful free gift, is there anything else that you want to share? About pausing? I mean, you know, we talked, I think the main concept for me is getting out of the fight or flight, right, getting out of the reactive, you know, every you know, you're just reacting to your day all day long. So getting out of that, and moving into proactive, right, being proactive about your life, and your health. And Rachel talks about, you know, the, the moments between what was it? A reaction and a response, or Yeah,

pretty much Yep. So

So it's that moment between where you get to choose, where you get to choose your response, because life is busy, life is hectic, bad stuff happens all the time. Right? And we get to choose how we respond to it. And so that that pause puts us into the parasympathetic nervous system, which is the rest and digest nervous system, which just helps our hormones to flourish in such a big way. You know, I've heard many of you talking about how, you know, your estrogen dominant, or your insulin resistant, right? That's because you're in the sympathetic fight or flight nervous system too much of the time. Yeah. Oh, it is, it's not that you need to take progesterone, you just need to get in to the rest and digest nervous system where the time so that your body can, because you're so busy making cortisol all the time. And that just ages us really fast. So if you want to have a real motivator for using some of the tips that Rachel shared today, you create accelerated metabolic aging, if you don't pause, that's what happens. And you get really wrinkly, and you lose muscle, and you feel fatigued and worn out and more overwhelmed if you don't pause. So I'm putting some fear into you so that you take better care of yourself so that you're more in the present moment in a place of love. And there's serve at a much higher level, because when we're all filled up, right, we can be there to serve. So much better. So yeah, so give us like a quick wrap up, and then I want you to share your beautiful gift.

Ah, yeah. So So I think the biggest message I have and I talk about this in my TEDx Talk is we think that maybe overwhelm and stress are inevitable. It's like we as women, it's just part of life and it's where we are even, you know, whether it's whether it's hormone balancing or anything else, and that's just not true. That is that Is that is just not the way it has to be kind of like what you say Robin about having to re align with your home hormones, it doesn't have to be this, like, dismal end of your, like the third 30 year life or something like that, it's actually it can be the time you are most radiant and flourishing. And I think the same thing about this as pausing can become an asset for you. And when we can do that, it changes our lives. And I think the biggest thing I would say is, it's yes, it's not it's not inevitable, you have the choice to shift it. But it's, it's it takes effort, like anything that's worth it. And, and you can start today, you can start today with that micro pause, and a daily pause plan, which is essentially just picking one thing that you want to change. So thinking about, like, what's the one thing that came up for you today that you'd want to shift? Maybe it's going to bed earlier? Maybe it's resting and digesting for your meals a little more? It could be anything but but whatever it is, write it down? Potentially when right? When we write things down, we actually feel more connected to that and it becomes real, and then come up with what's the one thing that you'd want to do about that? Like, what's the intention behind that? Is it to feel healthier? Is it to feel more rested is to have more quality time with your family. And then that's the pause plan you can have, you can implement it by bedtime tonight, whatever that little step is change happens in incremental steps, I call it the law of little things. And that's my big message is that it can it can start anytime no matter where you are or what you're doing. But it starts with a choice, your existential choice to be different.

So beautiful. It's a choice, right? We just make all these choices all day long. And we just need to make more choices on behalf of ourselves. Choices for us. Choices for us, because we don't want that FLC we don't want to feel like crap anymore. Like with that. So done with that thumbs up. Yeah. Okay, so you have a really special thing coming up called the over whelmed fix a very special events which tell us more.

Yes, I'm so excited to share. So December 7 through the 11th of next month. So we're talking in a little less than two weeks, little more than two weeks, I'm doing a five day Facebook training. So it's called the overwhelm fix the overwhelm fix, you don't want to miss it. We're gonna be going into details about all of these things, and doing exercises and contests and prizes and all of that stuff. So I'm super, super excited. I would love to have you join me if you're resonating with anything that I shared today. And like yeah, pausing, I need some of that, then join us it's totally free. And you can join us at the Facebook group which is my private community called be the paws. So you can just search for b b e the paws Rachel Amira. And you go there and we're going to be having the the Facebook training in December 7 Starting in

cabin is coming right up. perfect thing to do during the crazy holiday season. It's perfect setup. Well, right. I mean, it'll just help you be there for yourself. Remember what's important, you know, set some boundaries, all those great things boundary, the link right here.

So soon in five minutes or less. We're talking, you know, doesn't take a lot of time. And it's it's your worth it.
Yeah. So I'm so excited for you have this amazing opportunity to join Rachel, there'll be sure to hop on over to our Facebook group. So you get all the information. And is this is this taking place in your Facebook group? The overwhelmed?
Yeah, yeah, it's gonna be in the Facebook group. There'll be a little RSVP just to make sure you get all the details. Yeah, if you're already in there, we'll be we'll be going in there live just like you do Robin. And I'm super excited to help the art community basically support each other and learn this powerful technique that is called what I call pausing. But it's really a compilation of all of these emotional intelligence tools that can change your life along with.
I love the tools because they're like you say, just so little micro pauses are so powerful. Ah, well, I already feel so much more relaxed in a place of just calm just being with you and learning these great tools. How about you ladies, you feel in feeling a little bit more grounded? Yes. Well, thank you, Rachel, so much for being with us here today.

Thank you, Robin. Thank you so much, everyone for tuning in. It's a blessing to be here today with all of you. Thank you so much.

Yay. All right, everyone. We'll see you next week right here for hormone breakthrough Wednesdays me Rachel. So much love and sending all of you so much love. Bye everyone.